WHY CHRISTIANS NEED TO TALK ABOUT SEX

Let’s talk about sex.

If you come from a Christian community or family, that’s probably not a phrase you often hear. In fact, I've heard from too many young men and women who feel sex is not talked about often enough within the context of faith and spirituality. It’s a conversation that’s missing from the Christian community—as though not talking about it will magically make it go away. But that underlying belief is a huge part of the problem.
By not saying anything about sex, we’re actually saying something. We’re saying it’s a topic that’s not supposed to be talked about. And in the silence, our views of sex and sexuality begin to be shaped and molded—yet with no gauge of what’s healthy or good.
It’s time to talk about sex. Here are four reasons why:

Because if we don’t talk, others will (and already are)

All around us we are getting spoken to about sex. Turn on any TV station, tune in to any radio station or open any magazine and you’ll be bombarded by images and messages that speak to you about what sex is.
The world tells us sex is about pleasure, power and passion. It’s a tool, used to get what you want in life. It’s a sedative, to make you feel good. It's an instrument, selfishly used to get love and to feel intimacy.

By not saying anything about sex ... We’re saying it’s a topic that’s not supposed to be talked about.

Our concept of sex is being distorted by lust rather than love; by casual rather than commitment. It’s time to speak up about sex because our silence is allowing others to speak for us.

Because the topic of sex needs to be redeemed from feelings of guilt and shame

One of the biggest problems with the dialogue we've created around sex is that it is rooted in so much guilt and shame.
All throughout our lives, we’re inadvertently (sometimes not so inadvertently) told that sex is bad, wrong and shameful. We’re bombarded by the harm of sex before marriage, without being told enough of its beauty within marriage.In my new book, True Love Dates, I start one chapter with the phrase “Say Yes to Sex,” because you know what? Sex is awesome! It’s time for Christians to stop treating sex like a “say no to drugs campaign” but rather take the time to bring balance to the truth that sex done in God’s way is totally worth saying yes to. It’s time to hear less about why it’s wrong and more about why it’s right.

Because our understanding and expectations of sex have become skewed in the silence

I've heard from a lot of men and women who are going into marriage a little confused about what to expect when it comes to sex. They are having a hard time shifting their thinking from seeing sex through a negative lens their entire lives, to all of a sudden seeing it as good, holy and special.
This shift in thinking doesn't always come easily, especially when no one is talking much about it. Our silence has allowed for false expectations to develop, and has left many men and women to try and figure it all out on their own. As a professional counselor, I work with so many couples who are struggling with sex in their marriage and feel like they have nowhere to turn. It’s time for the Church to become a safe place where we can bring all our struggles and be welcomed with open arms—sex and all.

Because it’s God’s gift to us and talking about it brings Him glory

It’s important to talk more about sex because it is God’s precious gift to men and women. Our world has done so much harm to this gift by using it and abusing it through the pornography industry, sex trafficking, abuse, addictions and the like. Our media has misconstrued it to reflect lust and selfishness.

God is longing to redeem sex, because it belongs to Him.

God's design for sex has been misused, degraded and perverted. But God is longing to redeem sex, because it belongs to Him. It was His idea, and it’s something He created to bring Himself glory. God delights in His children, and He longs for us to experience this gift as best as it was made to be enjoyed. It’s time to speak up about sex, rescuing it from the darkness of sin and into the light of joy.For those who are in a covenant marriage relationship, God wants you to revel in the gift of sex without a hint of shame and to see it as the lavish gift that it was meant to be.
It’s time to talk about sex, because our expectations, understanding and views of this sacred act begin taking shape long before we say “I do.” May God give us the wisdom, the courage and the strength to speak.

http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationships/why-christians-need-talk-more-about-sex

ALWAYS; CHECK!...

Eavesdrop a conversation between two young ladies, and you might suspect they are talking about GUINNESS; tall, dark, strong, rich in taste.

But you will be Shocked that this is just the description of their IDEAL man.

Ladies please, apart from the special qualities you are looking for, be sure to add these qualities. Before you accept, ALWAYS check! ...the 3L's....

LISTENING EARS; communication is the lifeblood of any human relationship. The ability to listen is a major tool in communication. If he is not ATTENTIVE enough to listen to your needs, he will not be SENSITIVE enough to meet those needs.

LEARNING MIND;
A man who is NOT passionate about LEARNING is hardly fortunate in EARNINGS. Apart from his lack of money, he is likely to lack love. He should be willing to understudy his subject till death do you part. He should learn about your personality, preferences and even perceptions. Because no one can truly Love in ignorance. If he will NOT LEARN, he should NOT EARN your love.

LOVING HEART;
Love is a product of value. If he does not esteem you highly, he doesn't love you highly. When a product of value gets a LITTLE problem, we give it HUGE attention. Out of the abundance of heart the mouth speaks, if what he usually says does not suggest that he VALUES you. Run for your Life!

You don't need a perfect Man, but you need to perfectly CHECK the Man you want to submit to for the rest of your life, ALWAYS CHECK if he is a WORTHY Mister.

ALWAYS....Check Check!

Nana Sapho Asante
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Baby, Why Do You Love Me?

Women please ask your Men, "Baby why do you love me"?

If your man gave you a Reason why he LOVES you Today, he has just given you an Excuse when he LEAVES you Tomorrow. Because any present reason for doing something can always become the future excuse for not doing it.
Love that has many REASONS, also has many EXCUSES...

One of the universal laws in life is the Law of Change; everything changes. The proof of life is change, nothing with or in life remains the same. People change; our Interest, our Priorities, our Goals, our Friends and our Spouse will inevitably CHANGE.

Any "Good or Spiritual" reason he gives you for LOVING You will have to be forever Maintained and Sustained, Or else he has every "Good or Spiritual" Excuse to STOP LOVING you.

This is why the Ancient Book is precise and concise; MEN LOVE YOUR WIVES AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH...
The ONLY reason given for Men to Love their wives is not how good she looks or how good she even Is, but BECAUSE Christ loved His bride, the Church. This condition can never be CHANGED, because an activity done in the past is not subject to the Law of Change.

Therefore women, HE should love you not because of what you are DOING or WILL DO but ONLY because of what JESUS DID. Women capish?
So then ladies ask your man again, "Baby what did you say was the Reason for loving me"?
Nana Sapho Asante